A few years ago, shortly after I moved to South Carolina, I welcomed my extended family over for dinner during one of their annual summer visits to our resort community. As I was giving my Dad a tour of our beautiful new house, traipsing through the huge master bathroom and delighting in our spacious kitchen, I pointed out how worn the carpet was in most every room. I lamented about not having enough financial room in our contract to replace bad carpeting with wood floors like we planned.
Instead of being thankful for an extravagance of riches, I was defining our transition by the stained carpet. I didn’t realize I was highlighting the negatives until my Dad brought it up later in an email.
After reading his words, I pushed my chair back from my desk, hung my head down and repented. He was right, I was ungrateful.
It made me think about the times I’ve volunteered to serve with expectancy only to be squelched by negative remarks from leaders about the people they serve. Offered to help a host in the kitchen and ended up being an ear for wishes about newer countertops, a more helpful husband, and an updated oven.
Motives are often revealed in our off handed criticisms but sometimes those judgements aren’t as much about character as they are about a chronic state of unrest. When we are worn out, a rhythm of grace is elusive. We tend to find fault easier when we are tired.
Join me at Grace Table where I’m sharing three reasons why you might want to rest from hospitality.