When Distance Separates

by | Sep 30, 2011 | Five Minute Friday

Today I join this writing community for Five Minute Friday with the prompt, On Friends.  Writing briefly from the overflow of the heart.

Just five minutes of writing.  No editing, no over-thinking, no back tracking.  This challenges me to walk in freedom.  I challenge you to do the same.  Cozy up in your own place and write for just five minutes.  In your journal, on a napkin, at your laptop right in front of you now.  Just. Write.


It was almost fifteen years ago that destiny brought me together with two women, standing in the hall of that retreat center.  When the laughter and honesty started right there by the water fountain.

And we didn’t realize it then, how our hearts would be entwined for all these years.  Through babies being born, the loses in the stock market crash, the moves we would make to other states, my two moves, her one and the other left behind in Phoenix.

We didn’t know it then, by the water fountain, as we provoked one another to laughter that those days would be golden.  Those days we could touch each other’s arms, wipe the tears away, see the way the heart breaks in the eyes, hear the uproar of laughter in the middle of Marshalls.

That we would have to hold those times in our hearts and remember them in our thoughts because he would separate us these nine years now.

I talk to one this week as we attempt to orchestrate a rendezvous.  We both wonder if those days of deep community, where we share our families and our lives together in the same place is over.  If those were the only days of intimate friendship and community. That was it. If the deep longing and hunger for community in friendship will ever be satiated again.

Because God created us to hang on to each other the way we did all those nine years and some ago.  I long for that kind of friendship again.  The loneliness feels like a deep dark hole too big to fill.


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  1. Sabrina Justison

    I understand….I have a friend that life has separated me from for far too many years. There are are so many wonderful people in my life, but no one that makes me not miss the years that she and I had carrying each other’s burdens, laughing our silly heads off, and learning how to be grown-ups. I wish that friendships did not have to have seasons to them….

    • Redemption's Beauty

      Sabrina, thanks for sharing your heart here. Sometimes, just knowing I am in good company is comforting.Yes, I ask God that why question a lot myself. Keeps me trusting in Him mostly I think . . . that there are seasons so we don’t get too comfortable.

  2. Jenifer

    Wonderful post on friends. You have been blessed. We all need good friends to encourage us.

    • Redemption's Beauty

      Thanks Jennifer! Yes, I was mindful of that blessing on my walk today. Though my heart misses them, and feels the empty sometimes, I do thank God for the friendships.

  3. Marie

    I understand your feeling – I left my country in 2006 and all my friends have moved on with life in different cities. I dream of dropping by sometime for a coffee and a chat, these old things we used to do and linked us a way nobody can understand.
    But there is always a place in our hearts where we are together. Your friends will always be blessings to you as you are to them. Always there even when the distance keep you apart.

    Have a lovely week-end!

    • Redemption's Beauty

      Marie, yes it is nice to have history with people . . .to pick up where you leave off. Thanks for visiting today and you have a nice weekend too!

  4. Lisa Wakefield

    terrific photos. clear and crisp. who takes these for you?
    great post and interesting challenge. i might begin one for myself. just to keep in practice for my journal.

    • Redemption's Beauty

      Thanks for your input Lisa, love connecting with you here! I take all my own photos unless I am in them. In this case, Jim (Kelly’s husband) took the one at the top in Kansas for Rocky’s (LuAnn’s husband) 50th surprise party. The other one was taken by Murielle. She is great with a camera. Very artistic by nature. You should start a blog. It would be great!

  5. Terri Ann Domenzain

    Just remember…special friendships are flowers in our life garden! I love the pics of you girls! XO

  6. Lisa-Jo thegypsymama (@thegypsymama)

    Oh my goodness, those have got to be the greatest photo testaments to friendship ever! Thank you so much for sharing!!

    • Redemption's Beauty

      Thanks for the opportunity Lisa-Jo. So thankful for a camera and the years of photos snapped. Helps to remember the goodness of God when I look at them.

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